This is not a journey that I would've chosen to take. And I know that, most likely, I will never know the reason that God allowed this to happen. But this blog has been, first and foremost, about faith...in things unseen.
With this physical, emotional and mental struggle came a spiritual struggle as well. It saw me and Jared reevaluating our concept of God and His plans for us. For several days, I was angry with God, and spoke angrily to Him. I do not feel shameful about this--after all, Job, a man in the Bible, did the same thing, and in his anger, he did not sin. God responded to my anger by bestowing incredible peace on me and Jared and having us grow much closer as a couple. God also brought me dozens of women who wrote, texted and called to let me know they loved me, they were praying for me, and--more often than not--that they had had a miscarriage themselves. I know these blessings came from God--none of it is anything I can generate on my own.
Faith always takes work. It only seems easy when life seems easy, but more of the time, you have to make a conscious effort to continue life in faith. Sometimes, a HUGE effort. I was telling this to God this afternoon, and He reminded me of this verse: "Consider it pure joy when you face trials, because you know the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work, so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything" (James 1:2-4). When I talk to God, I claim His promises in the Bible a lot--it makes sense to me that He responds to my prayers by reminding me of more things He has said in the Scriptures.
And what God tells me is that He is the expert on restoring joy and hope for those who love Him and put their trust in Him. There is another passage that I was reminded of that is in Lamentations. It's verses 19-26, and I love the way The Message translation puts it:
I'll never forget the trouble, the utter lostness,
the taste of ashes, the poison I've swallowed.
I remember it all—oh, how well I remember—
the feeling of hitting the bottom.
But there's one other thing I remember,
and remembering, I keep a grip on hope:
God's loyal love has never run out,
his merciful love has never dried up.
They're created new every morning.
How great is your faithfulness!
I'm sticking with God (I say it over and over).
He's all I have.
his merciful love has never dried up.
They're created new every morning.
How great is your faithfulness!
I'm sticking with God (I say it over and over).
He's all I have.
God proves to be good to the man who passionately waits,
to the woman who diligently seeks.
to the woman who diligently seeks.
And so, I do wait. And I do seek. And I continue this journey in faith, because God IS good, and He DOES have a plan for my life, as I am assured in God's promise of Jeremiah 29:11: " 'I know the plans I have for you', declares the Lord. 'Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.' " The Message translation goes, "I know what I'm doing. I have it all planned out--plans to take care of you, not to abandon you. Plans to give you the future you hope for."
The future that Jared and I hope for contains 2-3 children. And Jared and I continue to pray for God to bless us with a healthy child. We choose to trust that He will restore doubly what He has taken away--again, just as He did with Job. I have restarted my prenatal vitamins. We are waiting on the medical "OK" to start trying again. And God goes ever before us, with a plan of hope and blessing.